Boudoir During a Life Transition

December 02, 2020 in boudoir

I still get people who don’t understand boudoir. They think it’s purely sexual, vain, or pointless. I can keep putting up blog posts that explain why they are so much more than that. I can try to explain it in my own words (which I’ve done several times). But, what I think speaks the loudest are words from other women who have been photographed by me.

This one hits way too close to home for me. M (we’ll call her) isn’t sharing the photographs with the public because of her job. I reached out to her and asked if she would be willing to share her story, though. I told her that her words might really need to be read by someone who is in the depths of hell. I wish that more women had talked about their struggles when I was in my marriage. There were so many times I felt shameful and alone. E is allowing me to share one photo and her words.

I want to point out that not every woman that I photograph is “broken” or going through hard times. I photograph women who are engaged, married, divorced, have kids, can’t have kids, don’t want kids, have done boudoir sessions before, have never done boudoir sessions before, and so on. But, this is E’s story and it’s a pretty damn powerful one.

I'm Writing This Because I Have To

March 11, 2020 in boudoir

I’m writing this because I have to.

I’m writing this because yesterday I spent 30 minutes in my car, in the grocery store parking lot, crying and unable to move from my seat.

I’m writing this because the last two weeks consisted of me struggling to get out of bed and some days, I didn’t.

I’m writing this because the past 5 weekends were spent photographing people’s joyous occasions and I didn’t feel any of it.

I’m writing this because I spend most of my days alone, beating myself up because I’m the only one to blame if my business fails.

I’m writing this because I know that I really have no reason to be so sad, but I do.

Boudoir Looks Different To Everyone

February 26, 2020 in boudoir

R then told me that she never had photos in her wedding dress. She and her husband had a very small and intimate wedding and they never had any photos taken. She pulled out this gorgeous gold dress and we headed outside. We ended up with some pretty stellar, sun-drenched portraits of her in her wedding dress. Something I tell every woman that inquires with me is that, “boudoir looks different to everyone”. Some women I photograph are lingerie collectors, some love to wear a tank and jeans, other want to be fully nude. Beautiful and confident is what you make of it. You don’t need to conform to anyone else’s standard of beauty. I love that R decided to do this as part of her session. She was GLOWING.

Is It The Right Time For You To Finally Do That Session

January 22, 2020 in boudoir

I get so many emails and calls with women who say something along the lines of, “I’ve been dreaming of doing a session like this for years, but I’m still a little scared.” Or “I’ve been following your work for years and was always to afraid to reach out. It was too real if I contacted you.”

It’s amazing to me the amount of women that are yearning for a boudoir session. I honestly can’t stand the word “boudoir” as it doesn’t feel true to what I’m trying to convey for my clients. I would rather call them “Discovery Sessions”.

The best thing to remember is that you aren’t doing this alone.

I’ve got you.

And, you’ll soon discover that you’re braver than you think and that YOU’VE got you.

Celebrating Your Body

December 03, 2019 in boudoir

I can’t believe it’s already been a year since I shared this session. It is featured on Bajan Wed, so I felt it fitting to talk about it again. Everything that this client wrote about her session is why boudoir is so incredibly important.

This is a woman that I have photographed a couple of times. I have photographed her wedding and a few other sessions. When she wrote to me about it finally being the time to do a boudoir session (we had been playing with the idea for years), I had to know why NOW? What was it that finally gave her that push to get outside of herself and be vulnerable. What I wasn’t expecting was how much her answer would resonate with me. I truly believe she speaks for so many women (click to read her resonating words).